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Ok, I really just need to vent. What the hell gives old people the right to be rude???

I had my Grandmother over to my new house last night for the first time. I made a really nice Italian dinner (home made sauce, meatballs and stuffed shells...not the store bought ones, I f'n stuffed them myself). With Italian pastry for desert.

I showed my Grandparents around the house and they could find nothing good to say about it. There are too many stairs (the house is a split level with 3 floors, there are 6 steps between each floor, so a total of 12 steps in the whole house!!!), she HATED my choice of colors for the rooms (my room is deep red with black accents, Joan's room is a country blue and both bathrooms are pink & gray).

Now the house has hardwood floors through everywhere except the family room where I chose to put down carpet, well, I didn't buy the right color carpet, there was no scrollwork in the carpet, and then she had to knock the floors, how they're scratched and need to be redone. Ok, anyone have any idea how f'n expensive it is to have hardwood floors stripped and redone?!?! Not exactly a priority when you purchase the house and do 40,000 worth of work to it in 6 months.

Then, as though that's not bad enough, she goes after my house cleaning skills. I have 3 cats and hardwood floors, you sweep/vaccuum and almost immediately there are little kitty dustballs. It happens, and unless I walked around my house with a vaccuum strapped to my back it's impossible not to have them. According to her, I never properly learned how to clean and I clearly don't take pride in my home.

Also, my house is too big, I'm a single girl, what do I need such a big house for, but then again she supposes that if I ever find a man who would want me, there's plenty of room for kids.

She then knocks dinner, because I learned to make sauce from my Noni (I felt hers tasted better). She didn't like the sauce, she hated the meatballs and she was mad that I had forgotten the powdered sugar for the top of the pastry.

Ok, sorry I'm just rambling here, but she really gets under my skin. Now I've never been smart enough or pretty enough for her, but come on. Why can't she look at the positive? I never went to college but I still have a job where I'm making a really good living, I bought a $350,000 house BY MYSELF, I have no major debt so to speak and I've never commited any felonies. But apparently I suck because I'm overweight, single and have no children.

Most frustrating is that I can't say a word to her, she's my Grandmother and I've been taught to treat her with respect no matter what she says. But bullshit, what gives her the right to treat people like that????

Thanks for reading my rant. If anyone else has family members that do shit like this to them, please let me know, I'd feel better knowing I'm not alone. And, if you don't...do you want mine?

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some people have had lives that make them quite bitter. Its like a bucket of crabs. The crabs will crawl up each other to get to the top of the bucket, but when one reaches it, another crab will grab them and pull them down to climb on top of them.

Dont let your grandmothers opinion be the deciding voice on wether or not you have a lovely house. Its yours. You didnt decorate it to please her. You did it for yourself. Be happy with that. Sounds liek you will never be able to please her so why wreck yourself trying

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A lot of old people think it's their right to be rude or "to speak their mind" as they put it.
How about a friendly but firm "Those things you say about my home make me feel sad. How would you have decorated it?" Then just ignore everything they say lol.

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Why are old people rude?  Just 'cause.  There's neither rhyme nor reason, nor explanation acceptable or even one that makes sense.

Just remember, you did the right thing:  Your best to impress - and then she'll putter off on her merry way back home.

PS: Next time for dinner, you could just make Kraft Dinner with hot dogs.

Oh, and remember one other thing: YOU bought the house, YOU like it, YOU live there.  That's a good thing to be proud of.

Have fun.  I shuffle back into the shadows from whence I came ...
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Did you remind her that you have some say in what nursing home she goes to?

OK OK thats a mean thought. I don't know what it is, but people seem to reach an age where anything different from what they were raised with is criticized. This is usually accompanied by a list of who's dead, what ailments people have, and do you remember so and so (usually not). It's force of the universe, and not to be taken personally.

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Babygirlminxi I think you’re an amazing person I wish I could have done some of the things you've managed. I can’t' cook everything I eat comes out of the microwave, I don't have my own home I life with two fucking assholes but won't move cause the place is cheep and I can keep my dog. I completely understand about the floors I have a long haired dog most of the time and the floor is mostly tiled so we have dog fur bunnies running around all the time. Then again in my house that is the least of the mess (referring back to my asshole roommates). My grandma was never like that, she is nice and loving and I miss her a lot she died on my 18th birthday. My grandfather was a bastard but I had to problem telling him that he never did anything to earn my respect he wasn't much of a talker but if he opened his mouth to say something to me it was never anything nice. He used to make up shit to get my into trouble and that was long before I starting tell him what I thought. I am very sorry that you didn't have a better time with your grandma, I wish that you could have had one like mine sure was so sweet!! I think your house sounds amazing and you should be happy! You have a house and you can do what ever you what with it that is really great!

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And I agree with Zack next time she comes over you should feed her what I'd make get some of these frozen dinner with the penguin on them heat and serve. They have everything some corn, and pudding with sprinkles. (Here is a tip don't eat the pudding the corn gets in there all the time and it is nasty!)

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Girl, take it all in stride! You can never please everybody all of the time, and in my experience...you can never please your family! Let it roll off you like water off a duck's back...it will only make you miserable, and from what I read you don't deserve that! Of course, that is easier said than done, I know from experience (my mom is the same way!) Negative people use their negativity to bring other people down, just to make themselves feel better. See, it means that in some way, they are jealous of you.

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Yeah, old people are rude sometimes. If you bump into them by accident and apologize, they still give you a dirty look. If they bump into you by accident, they give you a dirty look.

Their motto: "We've rebuild the country after the war (WW2), so we can say and do whatever we want."

It really frustrates me. Don't get me wrong, I have respect for elders, but there are some who act like they aren't bound to rules and laws just because they are senior citizens. They're only complaining about the behavior of youth of today, they should also do something about the elders...

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Wow guys, thanks for all the support. You really made me feel better.

I know she's old and crabby and I try not to take it personally, but boy does she know just what to say to get under my skin.

My father's mother was my Noni and she was the one I was close to. April, she was a lot like the Grandmother you described.

Again, thanks for everything, you really made me laugh....well, off to the store to buy those frozen penguin dinners. :-)

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You want ones like mine. Dead.

Anyway, I think it's just a way of getting their own back, old people were mean to them when they were young so they just pass it down the line. Sort of tradition.

It's like saying things like..."When I was your age...", "It's just noise and you can't hear the lyrics!". Some things have to be done as you get older.

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Dont forget to watch out for the corn

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Seriously .... Watch out for the corn.  It gets into everything.  Not as bad as the tomatoes though.  Those Killer Tomatoes Attack when you're not looking!
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You have to beware of those Killer Tomatoes, they are quite sneaky, but none are as sneaky as the Killer Yams.

You never really hear about the Killer Yams, and that's only because they're so darn sneaky they place all the blame on the corn. Corn really does just get a bad rap.

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...or a bad crap....

Heehehehehehe!
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Cawn of the Dead?
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FYI.

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Girl,I can relate with this topic.If I spend more than 2 hrs with my grandmother or as I call her "The Devil in drag" I am literally in bed the rest of the day.The older that olde battle axe gets the meaner she gets.It has been affecting me for the last oh...5 years or so.Now shit has rolled downhill,and Mom and Ashe(my beloved baby sis) have begun to catch it.Earlier this year one of G'ma's 2 sisters died so Mom,Dad and Ashe took her like 1200 miles to the funeral.All the way there and back it was "Your driving too fast","Gas is too high" bitch bitch bitch.( Bear in mind she FORCED them to take her subcompact car)Well lo and behold a month or so later the other sister died so Mom and Ashe loaded up and took her the 1200 mile trip AGAIN!Appearantly it escalated to "I hate you,I wish you were never born" and my fave "You never do anything for me".It was also extra stregnth temper tantrums and fingers stuck in her ears while she babbled lalalalalalala.Oh and beating on her own legs for...hell I dont know.Turns out to The devil in Drag we are all pawnscum.Hell,Ive been hearing Im the reason Mom didnt go to college therefore I ruined her life for ages.
Ill be damned if she didnt call 2 days after they got back the second time for a free perm/haircut!When she called she asked if I had talked to Mom or Ashe,I said yes thru clenched jaw.She proceeded to call them liars.I hung up and havent talked to her since.Looks like Xmas should be full of shits and giggles!

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OMG! That's hysterical!!

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Maybe your Grandmother can come over and hang out with mine. This way they can sit and talk about how ungrateful their families are.

I'm a foreclosure paralegal at the biggest foreclosure firm in my state, you'd think she'd be proud of that. No. Old fart lies to people about what I do and tells her friends I'm a waitress!

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