Ok, I really just need to vent. What the hell gives old people the right to be rude???
I had my Grandmother over to my new house last night for the first time. I made a really nice Italian dinner (home made sauce, meatballs and stuffed shells...not the store bought ones, I f'n stuffed them myself). With Italian pastry for desert.
I showed my Grandparents around the house and they could find nothing good to say about it. There are too many stairs (the house is a split level with 3 floors, there are 6 steps between each floor, so a total of 12 steps in the whole house!!!), she HATED my choice of colors for the rooms (my room is deep red with black accents, Joan's room is a country blue and both bathrooms are pink & gray).
Now the house has hardwood floors through everywhere except the family room where I chose to put down carpet, well, I didn't buy the right color carpet, there was no scrollwork in the carpet, and then she had to knock the floors, how they're scratched and need to be redone. Ok, anyone have any idea how f'n expensive it is to have hardwood floors stripped and redone?!?! Not exactly a priority when you purchase the house and do 40,000 worth of work to it in 6 months.
Then, as though that's not bad enough, she goes after my house cleaning skills. I have 3 cats and hardwood floors, you sweep/vaccuum and almost immediately there are little kitty dustballs. It happens, and unless I walked around my house with a vaccuum strapped to my back it's impossible not to have them. According to her, I never properly learned how to clean and I clearly don't take pride in my home.
Also, my house is too big, I'm a single girl, what do I need such a big house for, but then again she supposes that if I ever find a man who would want me, there's plenty of room for kids.
She then knocks dinner, because I learned to make sauce from my Noni (I felt hers tasted better). She didn't like the sauce, she hated the meatballs and she was mad that I had forgotten the powdered sugar for the top of the pastry.
Ok, sorry I'm just rambling here, but she really gets under my skin. Now I've never been smart enough or pretty enough for her, but come on. Why can't she look at the positive? I never went to college but I still have a job where I'm making a really good living, I bought a $350,000 house BY MYSELF, I have no major debt so to speak and I've never commited any felonies. But apparently I suck because I'm overweight, single and have no children.
Most frustrating is that I can't say a word to her, she's my Grandmother and I've been taught to treat her with respect no matter what she says. But bullshit, what gives her the right to treat people like that????
Thanks for reading my rant. If anyone else has family members that do shit like this to them, please let me know, I'd feel better knowing I'm not alone. And, if you don't...do you want mine?